self care

Be your own best friend!

‘Meditation practice isn’t about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better, it’s about befriending who we are. ‘Pema Chodron

Life is tough, we all go through challenging times and when we are in the midst of these, what I call ‘the eye of the storm’, it can be almost impossible to see a way out.

That’s often where we go wrong. The way out is never outside of us, it is always within. Huh? It feels like life is falling apart around us, there is drama and chaos. With every step forward you might be able to make, there’s always a corresponding step back. At least one. Bloody laws of physics! I seriously failed my physics O level exams. I should have realised even back then.

But over time I have come to have a better appreciation for Newton. If we work out how to adjust something within us, then correspondingly something outside of us will also change. And so to work. If life does feel uninspiring, fraught or like you are caught up in chaos and drama, fighting to keep you head above water, throw yourself a lifeline.

Start by acknowledging that you are in need of some self help, or want things to feel better. And more importantly, that you can effect change. You are more powerful than you imagine.

Take time for you. Make it a promise to yourself. That you will do one thing that will help you feel better about what is going on. That you deserve to feel better, calmer, more peaceful, contented than you do now.

As Pema Chodron says meditation is about befriending ourselves. Come and join in our small group meditations on Wednesdays at 7:30. Sessions on 18th and 25th of this month. Spaces are limited so please do book ahead, but pay on the day. No previous meditation experience required, just turn up and make friends with yourself!

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Don't just hope for the best...stay connected.

I meant to write this last week, after the second of my meditation classes. In basking in the reflective glory of the 50th anniversary of the moon landing, I guided a meditation where we simply allowed ourselves to float out into the cosmos. We could see ourselves as part of the cosmos, amongst the planets and stars. It’s an astonishing thing to be able to let go of your physical presence so much and allow yourself to be part of it all.

We have just cleared a very intense energy period, where the full moon and partial eclipse closed a 2-week window where we may well have found that sleep was very light and/or disturbed. The intensity of that energy was released, simply by allowing the call of the planets to draw us out to them.

Before any meditation or indeed any spiritual practice, I ALWAYS begin with a grounding exercise. Here we imagine we have roots, in the same way as an ancient oak tree has, deep and wide in the earth, keeping us anchored through the storms of life. Many of you will recognise the sense and language of it, I use it with clients regularly to help them become more present.

After enjoying the sense of connection to all that is, out in the light-filled cosmos, I guided us back in, reconnecting us to our roots, that ensured we could come back and be fully present. What a journey, it was beautiful.

Last week I also attended a regular group where we work channeling sound and sending it out as healing energy. It’s essential practice to ground properly before leaving to travel home and this time I failed to do so. What followed was a very real bringing me down to earth moment of falling on top of someone as the tube moved off. I was not only embarrassed, as he had kindly just given me his seat, but sore having jarred my joints and feeling bruised for the rest of the week.

Today, I see 2 dear friends with feet up, in plaster or badly bruised. My sense is the intensity of energy of the last few weeks has us all feeling a bit ungrounded, myself included! I think this week’s meditation might have us anchoring on earth, maybe in a wood! If you have been struggling with the energy, if you are finding it difficult to sleep, or even to be present (feeling distracted or not really with it), come and join us for a meditation that will calm anxieties and thoughts, and then bring you back to a feeling of greater stillness, peace and connection. Don’t just hope it’ll all feel better, come and make it so.

Meditation classes this month. Wednesday July 24th and 31st, 7:30pm - £10, payable in person on the day.

I am going to record a grounding exercise that is simple to follow, needs no previous experience to use. I’ll let you know when it’s available to buy as an MP3 file. Used every day it can quickly make a real difference to how you feel and how you feel more able to deal with life. Get your roots into earth and make like an oak tree!

Still needing peace and stillness?

Still searching for that elusive peace, space, stillness? Take some invaluable time for yourself.

You will have seen that I am starting to offer meditation classes. These will be suitable for all, whatever your knowledge or previous experience, and will feature guided meditations and journeys.


I'm running sessions this month, starting on Wednesday 10th. There are still a few places available. Don't worry if you can't make this week as there are also sessions on 17, 24 and 31 July, 7.30–9pm, just £10 per session. These are stand alone sessions, attend one or all if you are available.

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Do remember that although I offer all sessions from my home in Epsom, I can also offer intuitive guidance or mediumship sessions via Skype.

Beaming loving light your way, as always.